I cannot recall a time I ever have made a real New Year's resolution, and was successful at keeping it only to be left feeling like a failure. So this year I have decided to take a different route. I have decided that instead of making goals, resolutions etc. I am going to start caring less.
I know, who does that? I care about people. I care about things. I care about politics, money, what other people think, clothes, my body, blah blah blah.. And caring for those material things, and the judgments that people pass has made me a person I don't always recognize. So that is why I have chosen to care less this year.
Here are a few things I plan on caring less about in 2014:
1. It is none of my business what you think about me.
It really, really isn't. Not everyone out there thinks I am as funny as I do, and cannot always appreciate who I am and where I have been and that is just fine. And because of that, I will stop caring as much about what you think, and more about what I think of myself. What my family thinks of me. What the people I love think of me. What my son thinks of me.
2. My weight.
So, turns out that the more you work out, the less weight you lose. I learned the hard way that muscle (obviously) weighs more than fat, and as I started to tone and build muscle my weight not only stopped going down, but it started going up! Those numbers on the scale? They don't mean anything.
Do I feel good? YES.
Do I like the way I look? YES.
Am I happy? YES.
Done and Done.
No, I am not one of those celebrity obsessed, cheap mag lovers who cannot get enough of the latest celebrity gossip. I do, however, catch myself getting caught up in wanting to look, live, dress like certain people who fall into the "hollywood" category. I think we tend to forget that outside the glamour and lifestyle, they have regular problems just like we do and a lot more pressure. I will never be famous, I will never roll dirty in my benz, and I am ok with that. In with reality, out with lana del ray lips and nicole richie style.
4. My iPhone.
These days it seems I am more attached to that thing than my 2 year old (jokes!) but seriously. I catch myself on that thing 24/7 whether I am instagramming, spotifying, or on the go-to-anytime-I-have-a-free-second app; Facebook. It is time this electronic obsession and I take a break. I will care less about technology, and more about what is happening right in front of me.
5. $$$ (cha-ching)
Gosh I love money. I am really good at anything that involves spending money, too. In fact you could probably go as far as saying I am a professional money waster. I love knickknacks, books, clothes, and collecting really dumb stuff.. and you need money to get those. So I guess this is a two-for-one, because if I start to care less about money, I am caring less about monetary things... win/win!
I remember reading a quote somewhere that went like this “People always say life is too short for regrets. But the truth is, it's too long.”I carry the burden of a thousand regrets, and for many of them the guilt that is attached. I have made some foolish mistakes that have hurt people I love, myself included. And yet, those mistakes have shaped me into the person I have always wanted to be. I have spent far too much time caring about all the poor decisions of the past. 2014, we are looking forward.
You know those moms.. The Martha Stewart, bake my chicken pot pies I made from scratch with a spotless house and 3 children, and lived to blog about it blah blah moms? Well, kudos mom of the year. I see you, and I admire you for setting the bar so unbelievably high it is depressingly unattainable, but I will take my messy house and unbathed child over trying to play the part any day. I have come to realize after spending countless hours committing pinterest fails, chasing my child around my disastrous home, and trying to balance my work day, family time, and regular life stuff that I most definitely cannot do it all. And although I know I will ooh and awe you from time to time, and find myself falling short.. I'll care just a little bit less.
And the most important thing I will care less about...
If I haven't grown up already, chances are it will never happen. Plus, having a two year old means you get to play legos, watch cartoons, have food fights, dance in the kitchen and not feel the tiniest bit of shame.
Happy New Year, my lovelies.
Let's all care a little bit less in 2014.